Heather K Powers

The perceived value of your life

February 7, 2023 by Heather Filed Under: Estate Planning, Organize, Systems & Techniques, Tips & Resources, Uncategorized, Wellness & Mindset 4 Comments

This post is not about contraception or family planning, but it is about reflecting upon life and its perceived value. We each place value on our own lives and others, including the lives of family members as they age. Anyone at a crossroads in life facing the prospect of estate planning knows how stressful it can be. It can be emotionally and physically exhausting to face your legacy and the perceived value of your life. Maybe you’ve been a collector or have family heirlooms that have been passed down to you. The process of legacy planning can trigger loads of personal and family distress. I encourage you and my clients to take on the task of legacy and estate planning a little at a time. The sooner, the better.

It’s never too early to consider personal and family legacy planning. Whether the time to downsize comes when family members are alive or after a death, please start talking about this subject.

I hate to bring it up because it’s culturally taboo, but the fact is that we will all die.

What you will leave behind, you’ve probably grown attached to, or you wouldn’t have kept it around. But honestly, we often keep things for sentimental, practical reasons or because it’s a habit to have them around. For some people, legacy may include a lot of physical stuff; for others, that isn’t what matters. Either way, if we can start thinking about what is important for us to leave behind, it makes the process less overwhelming.

The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning is an excellent resource for anyone downsizing. It’s become a popular book, partially because of its darkly humorous title but mainly because there is currently a large generation of people in the process of downsizing (baby boomers). The author, Margareta Magnusson, recently published a new book, The Swedish Art of Aging Exuberantly: Life Wisdom from Someone Who Will (Probably) Die Before You, which I haven’t read yet. This book addresses more about the aging process from the author’s perspective. Since I’m aging (and we all are), I am looking forward to her perspective (both culturally and experientially).

One of the big challenges facing us when legacy planning is what to do with our stuff.

We can’t take our stuff with us…what we leave behind is part of our legacy.

Have you ever thought about what your legacy is? What have you enjoyed or done throughout your life that others might remember of you? This might be something you want to sit down and take notes on. Quickly journaling or taking a mental inventory of your life journey might include memorable moments, special people, collections and objects, and more. Here are some questions that will help you consider not just the stuff but what’s been most valuable to you over your lifetime.

Did you write, keep scrapbooks or take photos?

Do you collect something special (I collect things with a “Bee theme” but try not to overdo it)?

Are you a maker or artist (quilt, knit, or paint)?

Have you been a Gardener or Cook with records of these hobbies?

My Grandfathers Scottish accessories

Were you recognized for significant accomplishments in your career?

Did you invent something?

Were you an avid reader?

You might ask yourself and your family members some of these questions before it comes time to decide what to keep or get rid of. It may not be an easy conversation. Not talking about it could cause more pain in the long run. Keep it lighthearted and take it a little bit at a time.

Honor your loved one’s legacy by talking with your family members about what they are passionate about and how they want to be remembered.

Record your family stories to share with future generations. These conversations will help with future decision-making.

We all want our loved ones to remember us, and for some people, things are beautiful tributes. Keeping a handful of meaningful items can help you remember and honor their legacy.

Of course, there will be family and friends who will choose to honor and remember their loved ones without the stuff! Maybe they have vivid or photographic memories of events and connect to that person through other means (spiritual, oral, or written history). Sharing your story (via a letter, video, voice recording, or conversation) may be enough!

If your loved ones don’t want your things, don’t feel hurt!

Locate groups or organizations with similar interests where you can donate part of your estate. Be prepared to release your attachment to the outcome. Your family and some organizations will not want everything you’re leaving behind. That’s not a reflection of how they feel about you or the value of your life.

Others cannot fully understand the perceived value of your life; it’s your unique human experience, after all! How you communicate your life experiences is inherent in what you leave behind through the people you touch, the lessons you’ve shared, your human connections, and your creations. Coming to peace with your legacy is an inside job. Your inner peace can help you adjust your expectations about how others will pay tribute to your life.

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Simple paper sorting

January 9, 2023 by Heather Filed Under: Organize, Paper management, Productivity, Systems & Techniques, Tips & Resources 1 Comment

Is your desktop often covered in piles of paper? After the holiday hiatus, many people return to work with new enthusiasm, but possibly also to a desktop covered in papers and projects that have been lingering. In another post, we identified three steps to get paper piles under control, but today, my focus is on helping you create a simple paper sorting system to get your desktop clutter under control! If you missed that post, please go back and spend about 30 min’s preparing for these next steps.

Here is how we will create a simple and successful paper sorting system.

First, we will identify what overwhelms us about paper piles (the how or why things are feeling out of control). In accounting for our mental state, it might be helpful to journal about what comes up for you! Next, we list the categories of files and papers we need to keep. Finally, we create a working space or staging area to spread our supplies and create a new system.

Many people suggest the first step to paper sorting is to gather all your papers in one place. I don’t start with this because I believe before we dive into paper sorting, we need to identify how we got here and where we want to be! I’ve written about setting intentions in several past posts. and I believe this is one of the most important steps to creating lasting changes. This step can be easy to overlook and seem unimportant, but it can make all the difference.

Setting our intention is a valuable part of creating successful and lasting change.

After we identify what is holding us back and intend to change things, we are ready to gather all our papers in our work area. This might be just your desktop to start with (baby steps are BIG steps).

Before you begin, consider how you want to organize your newly sorted papers. In a prior post, I go through several filing systems, including the Tickler, binders, and color coding. Before you commit to one filing system, take a look at some alternatives. This paper sorting process will work for any type of filing system! It also helps to think about how you store your digital files, mirroring systems can save you time when retrieving (or trying to remember) things.

*A quick note about shredding and sensitive papers. If you have a lot of papers to process at once, hold off on shredding and put papers to be shredded into a LABELED bag or box. If a piece of paper only has your name and address, you might want one of these excellent ID Blocker stamps to mark out your info and recycle it.

With all your supplies and your staging area set up, let’s begin sorting!

Gathering papers is like a treasure hunt. Don’t forget to look in the kitchen, bedroom (nightstand drawers or surfaces), dining room, office or den, and car!
Before sorting stacks (files or bags) into categories, list the categories you know you need. Your categories might be different than mine. The most important thing is to create a system that is easy to remember. Common filing mistakes I see are overly complicated or very vague systems. See this post to review your categories.
With your list of categories nearby, put each of your categories on a sticky note. If you come across a category you don’t have, just add another sticky note! If you come across papers and are unsure if they need a separate category, set them into an “undecided” area to review later. Don’t forget an “Action or To-Do” category and a “Delegate or refer to someone else” category if those will be helpful.
Pick up your first stack and sort it into recycle, shred, or one of your categories. If you have a lot of categories, set up hanging folders in an empty box or file drawer. I prefer to start with a blank slate and sort everything into a new filing system.

Sort for a set amount of time, and use time-blocking and an alarm. Remember to take breaks every 30-60 mins. Though I can’t advise on what specific papers you need to keep, a helpful retention guide is available on the IRS website. For anything related to taxes and finances, check with your accountant.

Consider going digital for information you can access online. If you’re not comfortable but want to try it out, pick one category like “Utilities” and convert each account to paperless and see how that goes! If you like it, convert additional categories, such as banking, investments, and insurance.

Once you’re through sorting paper piles, don’t forget to label your categories. You can get fancy with printed labels, use erasable labels, or just a sharpie. If your new files don’t fit into your existing drawers, you may want to set up additional file boxes for items you don’t need regularly (such as tax or other archive papers). There are some downright gorgeous file cabinets in various styles; check out my previous round-up here. Now that you have a fantastic system in place, maintain it daily or weekly so you don’t end up with a backload of piles again!

Discovering Delight

January 3, 2023 by Heather Filed Under: Creative process, Inspiration & Education, Planning & Goals, Productivity, Uncategorized, Wellness & Mindset 4 Comments

Happy 2023! These days, when greeting people right after New Year, I find it’s not uncommon to exchange “words.” Selecting a word for the year (WOTY) has become common practice! It was a year that began with a lot of uncertainty. I had left my long-term corporate career as a textile designer, and though I was finding my way, I was still far from confident in my future. I began setting an intention for my year by selecting a word; that year, I needed clarity. By the end of the year, I had launched my business, firmly stepped away from my corporate career, and permitted myself to be with unknowing as things came into focus. The results of selecting a word was powerful, and the practice has stayed with me.

In 2022, I began the year needing HOPE. Strangely, I selected the word before things started to get crazy in our lives. I just figured that after two years of being worn down by the pandemic and grad school, I needed hope.

I needed to be in a mind state of hope.

I needed to act in hope.

I learned to live in a state of hope, to remember to be hopeful, and to take actions that lead to hopeful outcomes!

HOPE became a practice.

As I reflected on my capacity to carry hope with me, I realized that I wanted more. I wanted something more expansive, light, and inspiring. I thought about the word inspiration and realized that I was trying to get deeper to our source of inspiration and oftentimes, that is what delights us.

I want to live in Delight!

Having my 4-year-old nephew with me over the holidays was a wonderful reminder that the delight children live with (much of the time). I asked myself if I could just recapture some of that every day.

Yes, I believe I can live in delight! It’s a practice and my intention for 2023. I will spend the next year playing with, noticing, cultivating, discovering, and pursuing what is a delight.

Delight is everywhere! It’s a matter of noticing and finding gratitude for what is delightful.

Reflecting on the past DECADE of my practice of selecting a WOTY, here are some of my previous words. I love how they connect and flow into one another.

2011: CLARITY
2012: SOAR
2013: RADIANT
2014: PLAY
2015: CHOICE
2016: HARMONY
2017: ACCEPTANCE
2018: FEARLESS
2019: INTENTION
2020: INTEGRATION
2021: POSSIBILITY
2022: HOPE
2023: DELIGHT

Word Cloud Created with Thinkmap: https://www.visualthesaurus.com/

I would love to hear your thoughts on the word of the year process (WOTY). Hit reply and let me know your word (s).

Sanity Saving Holiday Organizing Tips

December 8, 2022 by Heather Filed Under: Inspiration & Education, Organize, Wellness & Mindset Leave a Comment

Each of these holiday organizing tips will help get you through the season with a bit more sanity & JOY!

After receiving new holiday gifts, donate used items you no longer need to charity (One in One out Rule).
Ditch the photo holiday cards…generally, they end up in the trash (recycled, hopefully), especially since people can see you more frequently via social media. How about a digital holiday card? I compromised and began sending recycled content postcards a few years ago.
As you pull holiday items out, please consider donating old ornaments and out-of-date decorations. Many thrift shops set up great holiday display areas! Consider picking up new/vintage items from thrift locations also.
Begin memento boxes for your kid’s holiday traditions, and keep these separate so they can be given to your older kids when they leave home.
Clean out your attic, garage, or basement space before you return your holiday decoration bins (vacuum, wipe down shelves if needed, etc.).
Have a Grab-A-Gift bag or bin with an assortment of “anyone” appropriate gifts (for last min hostess or holiday gift exchange items).
Clean out your spices as your cook and bake. Toss the old and make note of anything needed (put the date of purchase on the bottom).
Spruce up your kitchen whenever you have 10-30 mins. by tackling small areas or appliances (fridge, stove, toaster, sink, etc.) a little at a time. You’ll feel healthier & I bet you’ll eat healthier! See this kitchen organizing post.
Get your gift & wrap organized. Use a gift tracking list & invest or DIY a great wrapping station—see Pinterest for ideas

How to take care of yourself with purpose this season.

Don’t overbook your holiday calendar. If you’ve been invited to a million parties and events, occasionally, say no to a few and leave yourself some evenings at home, either alone or with your family and relax!
Schedule a date with your honey or yourself for a little holiday pampering. Dinner and a movie, a bubble bath and champagne, your pick, but keep it easy and fun.
Plan for the next year! Get a planner or calendar to map out large events such as vacation and business travel, important family occasions, and setting personal and professional goals for at least the first 1-2 quarters of the year.
Create a vision board to see what you want to create…it’s a beautiful thing! Learn more about my upcoming 2023 IN-Person workshop in Charleston (it’s been years, I’m excited!)
Pick a Word of the Year-AKA-#WOTY
Take a thorough home inventory this year-don’t wait for a disaster! Subscribe to my mailing list or “like” my Facebook or Instagram for more frequent tips and inspiration!
Keep your body moving, dance, hit the gym, take a walk…whatever your thing is, this is a great way to get out of your head and feel your way through the season.

Finally and most importantly, take time to Celebrate what is truly Sacred to you.

Is that a tradition, time with family, or a treat that you honor yourself with?

Whatever it is, this is the season to celebrate the sacred!

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Indoor Gardening for a Healthy Home

October 21, 2022 by Heather Filed Under: Home, Inspiration & Education, Wellness & Mindset

I love to garden for the joy that it brings me and to maintain my well-being. As we move towards winter, my craving for the garden also moves indoors. This week, the temps dropped into the 30’s at night, signaling TIME to bring my houseplants indoors. It snuck up on us here this year and I have a feeling it will warm back up. My plants might just get a little outdoor day visit here and there over the coming weeks.

In today’s post, I’m sharing simple tips for indoor gardening for a healthy home. Fresh air, lush greenery, colorful flowers, and sensory interaction (check out the sound of plants!) are a few reasons I love to garden. All of this can also be done indoors.

Many people don’t think they have a green thumb but with a little practice, anyone can grow at least one or two plants indoors. There is no mistaking how popular indoor gardening is. This is especially true over the last couple of years while our homes have become our everything!

Each fall, I spend a bit of time tending to my indoor garden, before bringing plants indoors. Some of my favorite ‘house’ plants are a 20-year-old philodendron, orchids, ZZ palms, pass-along ‘Christmas’ cactus, and an assortment of terrarium plants. If you have ever been to tropical climates, you might have recognized some of your favorite houseplants growing as outdoor tropicals. This trend began in the victorian era when lush tropicals filled parlors and conservatories. Some of us still can’t get enough!

Seasonal plant tips

To freshen up indoor plants seasonally (Fall & Spring), prune, fertilize, repot or replace leggy or unwell plants. For your terrariums, do the same as above but start by cleaning terrarium glass (with H2O only on the inside). The best time to move plants in/out is when temperatures indoors and out are about the same. Be sure all chance of frost has passed-or as it dips below the 50s in the fall.

I hope these indoor gardening tips will encourage you to try (or expand) what you grow indoors. It can take a little practice to find and maintain indoor plants in the ‘right spots’ but keep trying. My friends over a The Botanary do a great job of sharing the right plants for the right spots and ‘paring plants with people!

Good reasons to garden indoors

Plants are natural air filters! They clean toxins like formaldehyde, benzene, xylene, toluene, and trichloroethylene from the air. Certain plants do a great job with certain chemicals. About 1 plant per 100 sq’ has been proven to significantly purify the air.
Express personal style through plants and indoor gardening to add beauty and round out your interiors.
The act of caring for and nurturing a plant can be a meditative and calming practice.
You are bringing a piece of nature’s beauty inside where you can appreciate it more often.

What grows successfully inside?

Start by observing your surrounding, especially the quality of light and the location of airflow/vents. Also, be honest about your lifestyle and how much time you want to spend with your plant babies. These are the two most important factors for plant selection. Determine which direction your house and windows face. Have this information available when you go to select plants. You are sure to be more successful by selecting the correct plant for your conditions.

Factors in plant selection

light/exposure (N, S, E, or W)
humidity (run a humidifier if needed)
maintenance time (watering, pruning, fertilizing, re-potting, etc),
design style and colors in your home
pets, check out the ASPCA list of pet-safe plants here

With this, you will be able to make the best selections for your space. Do your research before you head out to buy anything, check out a variety of reputable local garden centers or floral shops, and talk to the staff. They can usually make excellent suggestions if you know the direction your windows face and the size and space and will tell you the common and botanical names, and maintenance requirements.

The maidenhair fern above will dry out quickly and make you feel like a failure if you can’t give it daily attention. Alternately, the ZZ Palm or Snake plant below both require low light and maintenance to thrive.

The ZZ Palm: above great for low light: image via James Saper

Sansevieria or snake plant image via Gardenista

Plant maintenance and troubleshooting

The biggest mistake people make with houseplants is overwatering (I worked in the tropical greenhouse of a local garden center). Generally speaking, let plants dry out completely before watering again deeply (some exceptions, like ferns). Potted plants are more quickly depleted of nutrients, so re-pot every 2 years using an appropriate potting mix with a slow-release fertilizer in it or sprinkle a little slow-release once or twice a year (see package for the rate of use). Otherwise, fertilize according to a regular schedule when you water, prune out dead leaves and sections and keep an eye out for pests. If you spot something moving, take a good picture and look up pests online or take the plant/photo back to your local garden center for help.

There literally is an indoor plant for just about every situation. Ask questions and do your homework before you head out shopping so you can make the best choice for yourself. Your indoor plants can bring you joy, a sense of calm and beauty, and cleaner indoor air.

Do you have an indoor garden? If so, drop a comment about what your favorite or oldest plants are, or who you got them from. Are you trying something new or have you had some complete failures (we all have!)? I’d love to hear about your indoor gardening experiences.