I hate to break it to you but your possessions have no value unless they sell! This is true for anything you create or acquire (clothes, household items, electronics etc). Lets really think about this a minute okay? We don’t give much thought to the VALUE of STUFF until we are ready to part with it or part with money to acquire it. Sometimes though, certain things resonate with us so deeply that it isn’t about the money at all and we attach an emotional value to things.
When we do this our stuff becomes sticky. It sticks to us, maybe longer than we would like! It becomes harder to part with, we justify the amount of money we spent, we connect with the feelings attached and we can’t let go…so then what do we do when we feel that nudge to finally let go?
We might think that taking items to consignment, trying to sell them via ebay or a yard sale will ease the separation anxiety…it might, it might not.
Here’s an extreme example; I recently worked with a client who had the contents of her entire home damaged by water, mold and construction debris…together we created an inventory of everything in her home-actually 3 homes, and this list was used to assign replacement value for her insurance claim. In the end I’m not sure if it was worth the time it took to unpack, list, photograph, research and provide documentation but the tragic circumstances made this person feel they had to do something and surely they couldn’t sit back and let the insurance company assign value to their stuff-or could they have? Would it have been much different? Maybe it was an important part of the process for this person to really see their stuff for what it was, just stuff…in the end almost everything was damaged out and replaced. Most stuff is replaceable or not needed to begin with.
I’m often asked to take things to consignment, having first scrutinized them for any imperfections, considering brand, age, wear, and style, only to have them sell for practically nothing. Same goes for the effort of selling on e-bay or a yard sale, it’s usually not worth your time (or what you might pay someone else) to sell these things. But if you really LOVE having yard sales, do it because you love connecting people with the treasures they are out to score, and give them a great deal, it will make their day! Usually though, when we dig deeper there is usually some type of lack mindset lurking beneath the surface.
I never tell someone what to do with items they want to get rid of but I do ask them to consider the value of their time when choosing how to release stuff. When we are really clear about why we bought something it might help us break the cycle.
When considering if you want to consign/sell or donate something I hope you will think about the joy that item might bring someone if you just give it away freely with no strings attached. Release things from a place of abundance and you will surely find the joy in sharing and your stuff will carry on that legacy!
