Do you have difficulty making decisions? We all do at times, promise! But for some of us it’s more difficult. There are several factors that hang us up in the process of decision making.
At worst decision making can feel overwhelming, anxious, impulsive and emotional. This can happen when we feel criticized and fall into default behavior such as perfectionism, compulsion, avoidance and procrastination which are ultimately forms of passive behavior.
“Our culture is a culture of getting. Perfectionism is taken as a sign of how good we are as getters. This preoccupation with rightness is a fanaticism…and it provides one of the quintessential post modern diseases: Stress.” -Dr. Fred Newman (Book:Let’s Develop)
At best we can feel empowered, passionate and energized by taking action! Now which would you prefer? No brainer.
So how can you take the difficulty out of decision making? It helps really understand what drives your passion and purpose. One of my favorite Authors, Danielle LaPorte shares her process of inviting her “Dominatrix of Decisions” to “Ride the Hedgehog“…Huh you say? Well, to simplify (if you don’t want to go read her in person) she employs her inner diva to guide her to what she really wants and she uses the “Three Circles of Hedgehog” to help her through the process.
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If all that sounds a bit too weird for you I’ll break it down point by point in a way that will hopefully guide you to your Decisions from a place of true desire and destiny.
- Eliminate unreasonable time and budget constraints that make you feel all panicky.
- Limit the amount of input you are willing to consider (keep it simple, don’t ask for 20 estimates and 10 friends for their opinions!).
- Prioritize between large and small decisions and rank their importance.
- Try not to be overly emotional or dramatic; most situations are shades of grey not black & white as we can sometimes make them out to be.
- Gather all the info and materials you need to help you make your decision in one place (a folder, box, basket or bag).
- Use your personal values, instinct, gut and spirit guide to inform your decision.
- Ask for help from someone encouraging who you trust (not 10 people!).
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